Well, I meant to close this poll long, loooong ago, but since I didn’t, I got a whole bunch of votes. Here are the results:
The crib-only fans edged into the lead at the last minute, closely followed by those who employ both methods. Trailing quite a bit behind were the dedicated bed-sharers.
As with many areas of parenting, where your baby sleeps can be a hot-button topic. I didn’t intend to share my bed with my babies, and, indeed, tried really hard at first to sit upright while doing the nighttime feeds. I got a big, comfy sitting-up pillow (the kind with the arms, really useful for reading in bed) and I really attempted to stay awake for the feeding and the burping. It was a total FAIL. I fell asleep anyways, and then I would awaken with a start, terrified that I had dropped my baby, or inflicted some other harm (G-d forbid). The only way I could stay awake was if I nursed him in front of the computer, and then I couldn’t fall back asleep. So I was either insanely sleep-deprived or terrified of dropping my child.
Then my doula told me about the magical nursing-while-laying down method, and introduced me to co-sleeping. And I didn’t look back.
However, when I first mentioned to an acquaintance-type-person that I was sharing my bed with my baby, her horrified reaction indicated that this was not a universally-accepted practice. So I kept quiet, but, little by little, I found more and more women who also employ this method.
My toddler now sleeps beautifully (bli ayin hara), and my baby (he’s seven months) spends much of the night in his Pack’n'play (we’re going to get a proper crib after we move, IY”H), but still hangs out with me sometimes (like, at 5 a.m.).
I’m in the process of writing a (long-overdue) post about co-sleeping for LadyMama, so if you have any opinions, experiences or information, please email me. I’d really appreciate it!
Also, check out the new poll in the sidebar! Can you tell I love exclamation marks?!