I once had a co-worker who vented to me about how much she despised making lunch for her husband. She described making him a sandwich, pantomiming how she would slap the ingredients down and slam the sandwich halves together, all while muttering under her breath. It all looked rather violent to me. I remember thinking:
“Wow, I make my husband’s lunch every day, and it looks nothing like that.”
In fact, I enjoy making his lunch. Every day I put in a little note, telling him that I love him and that I can’t wait to see him when he gets home. I try to be creative with the notes, but eventually they do get a little monotonous (that’s life, isn’t it?). However, he doesn’t seem to mind. He’s told me that he really appreciates this little gesture. It takes about 30 seconds to do, and the reward is huge.
There was a period of a couple months where I just didn’t get around to making his lunches. It’s not complicated – a cheese sandwich and a half, an apple and some chips. That’s all. But it got to the end of the day and I wanted to crawl into bed much, much more than make a lunch. So Hub made them for himself. I felt guilty every time he did. Those lunches had come to be a representation of my love for him, and I was letting him do it himself? Shame!
Eventually I snapped out of it, and the pleasure that I get from this little act is delicious (pun intended). I know he appreciates it, even though it’s a small thing. I think it’s these little things which can help keep a marriage from slipping into entropy.
During the long day of work, my husband is able to have a lunch which was made by me, with love (not aggression), and read a little note which reminds him that I’m thinking about him and that I love him.
What are some little things that you do for your loved ones to remind them that you care?