The results are in for this month’s poll! There was a much better turnout this time than last, so that was exciting (hey, it’s the little things).
I’ve heard many times that it’s important to date your spouse after marriage, you know, to nurture the relationship, to continue to relate to your spouse on an individual level (as opposed to a diapers, carpools and budgets level).
When I was becoming frum, the couple who I spent a lot of time with went out every Saturday night (in the winter, I think). This Aish.com article recommends having dates once a week. When I shared that with my husband he remarked,
“I don’t think we even dated once a week while we were dating.”
So we decided that, for us, once a month is good. That keeps us happy. We’ll revisit that as our family grows, but I feel that once a week isn’t a realistic goal for us (or for many people. Who can afford a babysitter four times a month?).
The results of the poll seemed to mirror that sentiment. The majority of you (62.5%) date when you can, that is, it’s not a regularly scheduled event, but not unheard of either. The next group, at 28.13% doesn’t appear to even go on dates (you should really try it, no really!!), and at the bottom, with under 10%, were the regularly-scheduled daters.
That bit surprised me a little. I would’ve thought that more people would be scheduled daters than non-daters. But that’s why I do polls. To learn about you, my readers. So, thanks for participating!
The new poll is up in the sidebar, so take a minute and let me know what you think!