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Okay, so I don’t really celebrate Valentine’s day (something about holidays that start with the word “Saint” and that it’s not so easy to find kosher V-day chocolates), but it’s always nice to let your husband know that you love and appreciate him, right? Here are five relatively easy ways to do so.
Update: When I wrote this post, I though I was being cute, or edgy, or something. But now I see that in this point I was not as respectful to men as I should be. So I would like to amend this first sentence.
Ladies, a man is a walking ego. Everyone loves a good compliment. Tell him how great he is. Spend a few minutes thinking about some things you love about him, and then tell him. Is he great with the kids? Let him know. Do you love how he takes charge? So say it! He’s a good listener? He’ll love to hear it. Try to tell him three things. He’ll be so happy, and then you will be too!
2. Look good.
Trust me, if I could stay in my pajamas all day, I would (and have, at one point or another). However, when my husband comes home after a long day of work, I want to be the best thing he’s seen all day! Even though I know that whatever I put on will be covered in either spitup, little sticky fingerprints, and likely both, it’s still worth it to have my husband see that I want to look nice for him. So I put on a nice outfit and a little makeup. And I try to put on my sheitel for him as often as possible, ’cause he likes it.
3. Let it slide.
You know how it’s so annoying when the toilet seat is left up/the thing is not put back in its place/that thing is left in the middle of the floor? Don’t say anything about it. No. Don’t. It’s not worth it. Think about it.
4. Have dinner ready on time
I wasn’t always great at having dinner ready for my husband when he walked through the door. The day kind of slid by, and before I knew it, he was coming home, and I hadn’t even thought about what to make for dinner. What’s the big deal? I thought. Well, I spent a few months working outside of the house, and when I came home I was starving! So then I understood a little better how hard it is to manage when ravenous. One of my rabbis at Neve would say that 70% of marital dispute arise because the husband isn’t being fed on time. Here are some tips on how to get dinner ready on time if you have little ones around.
5. Little Notes
My husband takes a lunch with him every day to work. I try and pack a little note with his lunch so that during his hectic day he has a little bit of home. Even when the notes get repetitive, he still appreciates them. If your husband doesn’t take a lunch, you could send him a text or email to let him know you’re thinking about him, that you miss him, and that you look forward to seeing him when he comes home.
What are some other ways you let your husband know how much he means to you?