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The two top posts on this blog are from three years ago when I wrote about covering my hair with a sheitel and with, well, everything else that isn’t a sheitel. Sheitel and tichel are two of the top search terms that lead people to my blog, even though I have barely blogged about those topics.
But I get why they are big topics. Covering one’s hair is a huge mitzvah, and one that is not always so loved. Andrea Grinberg, the woman behind Wrapunzel (remember when I was a Lady Wrap Star over at her blog a bazillion years ago?), has been bringing the love to hair covering. And people are so, so into it.
She and her lovely sister-in-law Naomi Rose (clarinetists represent!!) were just here in Cleveland on Sunday, and I was so happy to attend her event. Not only did I get some gorgeous new tichels, including this one, but I was inspired to reflect on the evolving relationship I have with covering my hair.
In that sheitel post from the past, I mentioned that I liked to wear sheitels if I felt like being incognito. I would wear them any place where I felt like I didn’t want to stick out too much, a place where maybe there wasn’t going to be a large Jewish presence, or any Orthodox presence.
Well, things have changed. Over the past few years I have noticed a shift in attitude in how I want to present myself to the world. I have definitely moved more toward the side of tichels.
When I would be out and about with a sheitel and happen to see a Muslim woman with her hijab, I would feel a little twinge of regret. It seemed like she would be obviously (and usually stylishly) declaring herself to be connected to G-d. And there I was, blending in.
I didn’t like that.
But when I would be out in public with a tichel and happen to see a Muslim woman with her hijab, I would be like, “Yeah! Solidarity with head covering and being an obviously religious person in public!”
That, I liked.
It wasn’t easy to break out of the habit of wanting to blend in, though. The first time I wore a tichel to a doctor’s appointment I was a fairly self-conscious. But the second time was easier, and by the third or fourth time I didn’t give it a second thought.
On the rare occasion that I would need to go to the mall, I would always put on a sheitel. But not anymore. Now I will deliberately wear a tichel.
This shift can also be seen clearly through how I’ve presented myself online. When I did my Partners in Torah video stint, I was always, always in a sheitel. When I did my Quick Thoughts for Elul video series, more often than not I was in a tichel.
I also think it’s a lot more palatable to explain hair covering when I have a scarf on as opposed to when I’m covering my hair with other hair. I don’t even really get that, especially when my sheitels look so amazing (though articles like this do a good job explaining that, though). If I weren’t covering my hair, there is no way I would look that nice! I would be in a permanent ponytail, or a short cut (not that ponytails or short hair can’t look nice).
I still wear my sheitels on Shabbos or if I’m going to a frum event where nearly every woman will be wearing a sheitel. My husband does like the way I look in sheitels, and I don’t mind them so much, really. I like the way I look in them, too. And if you feel more comfortable in a sheitel, then rock it.
But I love the way I look in tichels. And I love how they are never in my face when I’m playing with my kids, or when the wind blows. And how I can fry onions in a tichel and not have to take it to someone else to get washed like when I fry onions with my sheitel on.
When I wear a tichel, especially a very pretty one, I feel like I am proudly announcing that I love the mitzvah of covering my hair. Hopefully I’m also inviting conversation, creating curiosity, and making a kiddush Hashem.
The only question I have is: Will I ever come to a point where I completely do away with my sheitels and go full-on tichel all the time? I wouldn’t be surprised at all if (when?) that happens.
What about you? What’s your preferred hair covering, and has your relationship with it evolved over time?