Sheitel or Tichel – Is There Even A Question?


The two top posts on this blog are from three years ago when I wrote about covering my hair with a sheitel and with, well, everything else that isn’t a sheitel. Sheitel and tichel are two of the top search terms that lead people to my blog, even though I have barely blogged about those topics.

But I get why they are big topics. Covering one’s hair is a huge mitzvah, and one that is not always so loved. Andrea Grinberg, the woman behind Wrapunzel (remember when I was a Lady Wrap Star over at her blog a bazillion years ago?), has been bringing the love to hair covering. And people are so, so into it.

She and her lovely sister-in-law Naomi Rose (clarinetists represent!!) were just here in Cleveland on Sunday, and I was so happy to attend her event. Not only did I get some gorgeous new tichels, including this one, but I was inspired to reflect on the evolving relationship I have with covering my hair. Continue reading

I am Judging You, Judgers


I was going to write something about how online forums can quickly devolve into negativity. Not just criticism, which is necessary sometimes (even if I have a knee-jerk reaction against it), but just all out slamming Other People who do things that are Not Good, or, at least, Not What We Do.

And I was going to write about how easy it is to do, because Other is Different and Different is BAD. Sometimes.

But it gets so tricky, because when I am on a thread which goes south, with all sorts of broad, sweeping generalizations about What’s Wrong With Society, and assumptions being made left and right, I start feeling lots and lots of feelings. Frustrated feelings. Confused feelings. Judgy feelings.


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Don’t Ask Me About My Writing. Or Maybe Do.


The more success I’ve had in my writing ventures, the more reticent I’ve become about talking about it in real life. I can’t entirely explain why this is, but I suspect it has something to do with this.

Last night it happened as some fellow moms and I were returning from a parenting class. We were discussing organization, and I mentioned that I really enjoy being organized, and organizing things, but have found that I only have so much time during the day, and it usually ends up being an either/or choice.

I said something along the lines of:

“Either I can do music or write articles, or I can organize my house. There isn’t always time for both.”

(she's the reason, don't tell her)

(she’s the reason, don’t tell her)

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Of Interest – April


Did you miss me? I was probably in the kitchen. Or Toronto. Or Pesach. I don’t know. The last month has been such a whirlwind, and I’m not sure my feet have entirely touched the ground yet.

Here are some things I’ve found lately (though, honestly, I haven’t been on the internet all that much these past few weeks):

The Baltimore Symphony Orchestra had a peace concert yesterday, a free concert in support of the community in Baltimore. Because the BSO is amazing. This isn’t a sefirah-friendly clip if you’re holding the first half. The music doesn’t really start until 1:19, when they start playing the Star Spangled Banner. 

I received a couple lovely pieces of jewelry this month. One was in my StichFix order (I am absolutely planning to review my experience with StichFix after I’ve received a couple more fixes from them).

The other was this sterling silver bracelet from Laurel Elliott dvb New York, which has Mom in thirty-two language on it. Thirty-two languages! They are: English, Arabic, Catalan, Chinese, Czech, Danish, Dutch, Esperanto (!!), Estonian, French, German, Greek, Hebrew, Hindi, Hungarian, Irish Gaelic, Japanese, Italian, Latin, Latvian, Lithuanian, Norwegian, Polish, Poruguese, Russian, Spanish, Serbian, Swahili (!!!), Swedish, Tibetan, Urdu.

And, despite all those words being used, the bracelet is still slim and dainty. Just look at it:


IMG_6915A fitting present for Mother’s Day, am I right? And, as someone who is a little obsessed with language, it’s perfect for me. Bonus!

The little card which came with this lovely braclet told me this:

The word for mother is similar in totally unrelated languages. Many believe this is because the vowels and consonant sounds that make up the word for mother are the first to be mastered by children and so the sound of the word to identify a mother is almost universal.

How beautiful is that? I’m having feelings.

Laurel Elliot also has a collection of Jewish-themed jewelry which I found beautiful and tasteful, and they have jewelry for various other heritages, plus quotes and inspirations, and, well, just go check them out already because you can probably find something there you will like and then you can subtly (or not so subtly) encourage your husband to get you for mother’s day. Or just get it for yourself. Or for your mother. Or mother-in-law. Whatever works.

Nina Badzin continues to field all your friendship-related questions over at the HerStories Project. If you have any relationship-based question, you should absolutely submit it. She’s got great advice.

Over at Hevria, two things that really resonated:

1. Chaya Lester knocks this one out of the park. I’ve long had a wary relationship with the word “should,” and she puts it so much better than I would have. Also, there are exercises you can do! Also also, the title “Couples, Stop Should’ing All Over Each Other!” is the best. Just the best.

2. RACHEL KANN HAS A NEW POEM. I’m gonna make some music for it after Lag B’Omer.

And here are some pictures from the wedding:

wedding pics

Finally, I have a post up on Kveller right now with some of my thoughts on how I would talk to my children about what’s going on in Baltimore. I struggle with my own thoughts and reactions when civil unrest rears its head, and with it happening relatively frequently, I felt that it was time to ask myself “what can I learn from this situation?”

The dinnertime dilemma


For my entire married life (all seven plus years of it) my husband has had an erratic schedule. Over the years, we developed a system where he would call me when he was ready to head home so I would know when to expect him.

The range, on days when he worked a “normal” shift of eight in the morning to seven at night, varied considerably. Some evenings he would come home early, maybe around five. Other evenings his shift could stretch on past eight.

Throw in the overnight shifts and the afternoon shifts and the midday shifts, and the only thing I could rely on for scheduling my day is that anything could happen.

His new job (which he’ll be starting after his brother’s wedding this week), promises more stability in the scheduling part of our lives.

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The Best Kind of Mess


The first days of Pesach have come and gone. The four cups of wine were poured and consumed, the mah nishtana asked, the front door opened to greet Elihayu haNavi. Our new home was filled with the sounds and smells of family and holiday togetherness.

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Of Interest – March


We’re moving tomorrow.  Tomorrow! So you’re probably not going to hear from me for a little while, because of all the things that are happening in the fairly immediate future.

In the event that you have free time (I can hear all my Pesach-preparaing friends laughing maniacally at that), or if you want to take a much-needed sanity break (always a good idea), here are some things from around the web that I found interesting: Continue reading